by Rex Sikes
are getting some good advice here from fellow performers, know
your routine well, jitters are normal, etc. All sound advice.
I additionally do is ask myself positive productive questions
which lead my mind in the direction I want it to go in. For example,
I ask myself questions like 'Just how surprised and delighted
I will be to discover myself having a marvelous time? In how many
different ways can I discover myself delighted and excited at
having the opportunity to perform? How much fun can I stand and
in how many ways will I find myself enthused? How easily can I
discover my sense of humor (or whatever) and how much I love performing?
In how many different ways can I excite and entertain the audience,
and have them have fun and enjoyment? In how many different ways
can I feel and express my enthusiasm for entertaining? How quickly
will I discover an ever increasing sense of confidence arising
in me to the point where I feel totally incredible about this
wonderful opportunity to amaze and delight strangers? How many
new friends can I make as a result of this opportunity?' These
are just a few brief sample questions you can ask yourself - or
develop your own.
use questions like these questions to fill my mind. You see when
you ask a question your mind goes in search of an answer. It knows
what to look for since we grow up asking questions. The problem
with most of us is that we have asked crappie questions of ourselves
and others. So I use good positive questions to stimulate my mind
to search for answers which I already presuppose to be there.
(understanding language presuppositions which occur naturally
in English or any native speaker's language is most beneficial).
example I already assume to have a delightful experience the question
I ask is how quickly I can recognize the delight, or in how many
ways I will discover myself feeling delighted, or find myself
thinking positive happy thoughts, or what is the first think I
will appreciate about myself when I discover myself already behaving
in that fashion, or will tell myself when I suddenly find that
I have behaved in that fashion, where will I feel the delight
most in my head, heart, chest etc. I presuppose I will have then
ask how I will manifest it or recognize it or act, speak, think
or see regarding it.
other words I want to get my brain to work for me. I want to say
things like 'I wonder how quickly I will realize how excited I
am' (rather than I'm nervous). Notice also I am not make affirmations
- in other words I am not claiming something to be the case when
it is not - I am posing questions in a particular fashion, which
direct the mind and don't set up conflicts with what you know
to be true.
example some people make affirmations like "I am my ideal
weight' when clearly they are not and everything including the
mirror tells them otherwise. However, if you ask 'How quickly
can I discover myself maintaining my ideal weight, losing weight
easily and enjoying all the right foods in the right amounts.
How happy will I be to discover myself just naturally eating healthier
and shedding the pounds...' your brain doesn't know the exact
answer, and you haven't given it anything to conflict with. You
have simply lead it along the lines with least resistance. The
cool part about brains is they really do look for the answers
when questions are asked. So I use my brain to program the behaviors
I want. Including calm relaxed confidence, quite assurance and
the energetic and dynamic appeal needed for entertaining maximally.
notice I didn't ask an question searching for a particular answer
such as 'what is the capital of Montana' or 'on what day at what
time will all this make sense to me' I ask questions in an open
ended fashion, like - even though I don't feel totally comfortable
with this yet, how quickly can I begin to discover myself beginning
to relax and feel calm and confident?' and 'where can I begin
to put my attention which will be most useful for me in discovering
how truly talented I really am?' 'how quickly can I begin to find
myself truly recognizing just how wonderful I am and how lucky
I am to be able to share myself and my talents with an audience
of twenty or thirty friends?' See again I lead my mind where I
want it to go and then I fill it with these positive thoughts
morning, noon and night and especially when driving.
have been doing this for close to twenty years so for me it has
been second nature for nearly as long.
also use my quiet time (or else I purposely make some quite time
3 - 5 minutes at a time a few times through out the day) to imagine
or picture what I want happening, beginning to see myself behaving
in the manner I wish to behave in and then asking myself questions
about how quickly I can already find myself behaving like this,
and what I will see, hear or tell myself or feel as I continue
to successfully engage in these positive behaviors.
what important is to do this through out the days in advance of
when you need it. To repeatedly fill your mind with powerful positively
phrased questions and positive internal imagery and wonderfully
positive feelings of anticipating doing well even beyond your
wildest expectations. Continue to practice your routines and let
the questions and mental work you do make you excited about the
event. Remember you have the opportunity to dazzle new found friends
and acquaintances. It is really a marvelous opportunity.
is much I do for myself and as a performance coach. People who
have used and tested my methods do exceedingly well. And I have
years and years of very happy satisfied people who have learned
to run their own brains to benefit them in powerful ways.
take all the good advice, use it, practice your routine, fill
your mind with useful positive thoughts and go out there and give
them one heck of an incredible performance!!!!
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