By Rex Steven Sikes
is a process of change and if you want to be in charge of your
life then you must be able to direct that change. The only thing
standing in your way is if you refuse to believe in your own abilities
and then you act on that belief. Sadly most of us use only a very
small portion of our true potential. We sell ourselves short instead
of realizing our marvelous capabilities and capacity for enhanced
performance. Change occurs the very moment people stop saying
"I guess this is something I have to live with" and
start asking themselves, "how can I do it easier?".
By learning to manage your time you will have more time and energy
for the relationships in your life that are truly important!
is a fact of life, but it is not a part of your nature. It is
learned by reward. You are strongly effected by what happens immediately
after the behavior occurs. Your brain makes the link - this is
The Principle of Reinforcement. The moment you don't do
what has to be done in favor of a snack, television viewing or
any other activity but the one you intended to do you are rewarding
yourself for procrastination. The brain learns by succession and
makes connections from one moment to the next. In NLP we call
this anchoring. You are anchoring a more pleasant behavior to
the act of procrastinating. You must learn to reverse this.
can be accomplished easily by beginning your task, by breaking
it into smaller steps which you can accomplish easily and rewarding
yourself for taking the first, second and each subsequent step.
A reward is anything that brings you pleasure. Research
indicates that any behavior you are likely to do on your own constitutes
a reward for an activity you are not likely to do. You must realize
that procrastination is its own reward - so use it to get yourself
to do things. Start rewarding your performance and not
your lack of it. Whenever you face a task you don't want to do
ask yourself, "What am I in the mood for that I could easily
do right now?" Then be sure to do that immediately after
you do the first small step.
James said "nothing is so fatiguing as the hanging on of
an uncompleted task". What this means is procrastination
and lack of good time management are actually more draining and
energy zapping than plotting your course of action and following
Blocks to Getting things done:
Poor attitude - avoiding discomfort, fear of failure or success
2. Rationalization - lack of skill, waiting for the right moment,
3. Fatigue, stress, illness
4. Environment - noise, messy area, distractions
to getting things done
1. Activate your
2. Develop the skills and adjust your beliefs
3. Doing begets energy
4. Turn your environment into an invitation
Activating your Attitude:
Learn to ask yourself the kinds of questions that lead to getting
results. Remember ever action or inaction involves a choice. You
are always spending your time in some manner. Do you want to really
spend it whining and complaining or would you prefer to learn
to ask questions that get you what you want?
Stop rationalizing, develop skills and adjust beliefs
With rationalizations the key is to build in an alarm system that
goes off so that you catch yourself. You need to ask yourself
"Is this constructive or am I rationalizing?" This will
give you the opportunity to prove to yourself that you are
not a victim of your moods.
you force yourself to do something you don't want to do your self
esteem and self satisfaction increases. To handle fear of failure
realize that failure is feedback. The more chances you give yourself
to fail the more feedback you get and the better your chance of
of the best uses of your time is to increase your competence in
your key areas. The key to your future, to your earning ability
is continuous personal and professional development. Remember
time and money can either be spent or invested. Invest no less
that 5% of your total income in yourself. Peak Performance is
the result of loving what you do which comes as a result of believing
in what you are doing and knowing what you are doing.
one hour in your field per day and in 3 years you will be a top
expert in your field. In 5 years you will be top expert in the
country, and in ten years a top expert in the world.
seminar every three months. Turn your car into a learning machine
- a university on wheels. Listen to tapes. Remember: Always trade
money for time and life. Use money whenever possible to save time
- delegate or purchase. The Law of Accumulation states
that everything counts.
Meeting your physical needs.
Rest, relax, take short breaks, exercise and have proper diet
to insure your well being.
Create the proper environment.
Have the proper tools and have them organized. Rule: Clean
your workspace before you leave. The advantage to this is
ridding yourself of the junk so that it doesn't get mixed in with
the important stuff thereby avoiding clutter. Force yourself to
get organized and only handle each piece of paper only once. If
you don't need it at the moment file it immediately or ditch it.
designed to help make your environment more inviting.
Do I have all the tools I need? Do I have enough space? Are things
organized? Can I easily get to the tools I use most often? Are
there distractions I can eliminate? Do I have a good system for
handling paper work? Do I have the privacy to get things done?
management is the science of how to use the hours in a day more
efficiently. Pencil and paper are the two most powerful
tools in time management. It is done by planning. Rule:
"Work expands to fill the time available" This
means that most people take an hour to do something that can be
done in ten minutes. "Action without planning is the cause
of every failure" A. Mackenzie.
minute of planning will save you ten in performance. When you
plan set deadlines and stick to them. Actually give
yourself less time to accomplish the task than too much. This
will give you more time to spend on what really matters. Additionally,
most people work better under pressure. Self discipline can create
the pressure you need while giving you a cushion.
thou love life, then do not squander time, for that is the stuff
life is made of." Benjamin Franklin
management is really life management and personal management.
It is a skill that can be learned and developed. It requires self
discipline, mastery and control. It enables you to control the
sequence of events. Everything that is important - your life,
income, personal happiness are determined by you use your time.
worst use of time is to do very well what need not be done at
all." B. Tregoe
Top Goals for Balanced Life
Financial/ Career or Professional
Personal Self Improvement
Focused - when in the office be in the office, when playing
tennis be totally on the tennis court. When in the office work,
when with your family be with your family 100%.
means of managing your time:
1. Do it - get it done
2. Delegate it - give it to someone else who is competent
3. Ditch it - forget about it all together, it is really
ever action involves a choice between what is more important and
what is less important. The Law of Excluded Alternatives
- doing one thing means not doing something else. Separate the
urgent from the important. Ask yourself, "What is the long
term potential or consequence of not doing this now?" Don't
do anything you can delegate or purchase. Remember: Your aim in
time management is to increase your return on energy.
Method it will save you 25% time.
= must, B= should, C = nice D = delegate, E = eliminate.
The Law of Forced Efficiency states that there is always
enough time to do the most important things. Ask yourself, "What
is the most valuable use of my time right now?" Access how
you will feel afterwards - will you feel better or worse if you
don't do it right away?
items that are not truly priority items put it on the back burner,
low priority file. Make of point of going through the file and
getting them done at a certain deadline. This file is a back burner
not a grave yard.
time waster is lack of planning.
Set deadlines and do until done. Remember task completion is a
source of energy and reward. It creates self esteem and enthusiasm.
It also gives you a sense of control.
clear on your task: "What am I attempting to accomplish?
How am I attempting to accomplish this? Is there a better easier
more fun way?" When you are done with your task put it away.
your work and work your plan.
You need the big picture and the details. Set long term and short
term goals. Create a master list, a daily list and a project
list. Making detailed organized plans of action are a great
time saver. Each time you make your planning schedule be sure
to include some activity that works toward your long and short
discipline is the ability to make yourself stay focused on only
those things that are important. Practice makes perfect work on
managing your time everyday. It is the key to your future successes.
your 5 Top values
List your dream list
your Life time goals
List your short term goals.
Statement: What is your overall purpose on the planet?
How would you spend your life if you had ___ years to live?
What price are you willing to pay? What is your personal commitment?
List Things you have been putting off
10 things you would like to do but are afraid.